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We’ve been talking about the phrase “slut” a lot lately. For instance, when is it okay to call a woman a slut? And tween sex scandals – women being slutty all the time in their two-pieces! We haven’t really believed women are sluts since we were in 7th grade. But we tried to see what some reasonably well educated, seemingly progressive men thought of as “slutty behavior.” I’ve chosen to use pictures of J Crew models to help illustrate their comments, because that is obviously a brand for harlots. I’d say hold onto your hat, but you probably just left it at some strangers house last night, you hat leaving tramp.
*Disclaimer: no, seriously, we do not think of women as sluts. But we think it’s interesting to see what other (male) people think. On one hand, this is hilarious, on the other, kind of horrifying in this day and age, right?
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The funny thing is that you see all these men saying I d never date some one I slept with on the first date and all this shit by from my personal exprince most men will and are confident enought in themselves to not be thretened by my sexuality. This isn’t the dark ages we don’t have to choice between Madonas and whores we can accept people as people. I also men need to stop asuming that every woman wants to get married have fifty babies and live “happly ever after,” because not all of us want that. Also I don’t have any daddy issues and get very offened when people ask if thats why I like sex. I like sex because I like sex! Nothing more to say there except that I m very happy with my life as a “slut”
Tina You are a slut!
hell yeah! And we love our sluts. They make the world go round.
The problems with being a slut are:1. having sex with you is just not special anymore(what man wants that in his future wife). 2. having numerous sexual partners makes a woman dirty(harder to clean your genitalia) and therefore unfit to eat out. No man wants to think about his woman’s vagina as a cesspool.
Women and men are all sluts.. Its just that women are more undercover. Look Im a girl, and I’ve cheated on many guys, but I still dont consider myself a slut because I know what I want in my life, and I have a degree which most women nowadays want to depend on a guy for money and etc… Do I dress provocative sometimes?? yes! but does that make me a slut? no. A slut is really perception anyways, because for example a conservative outfit can be interpreted as being too revealing and a revealing outfit can be interpreted as being too conservative. To summarize my answer women and men can be sluts and definition of the word is always changing that by 2013 a slut is interpreted as being a good thing…. Sometimes we get horny and we need that release! but who I really think are sluts are girls who get pregnant at 16! thats disgusting.. But who cares because its happening anyways and we cant stop people from having sex!
get off the illusion that you are not a slut because you are the worst kind of slut. you cheated m0re than once..
Girls everywhere and all you emasculated “men” who are trying so hard to be politically correct at the expense of your masculinity, listen up.
Men and women are equals. This does not mean that they are equal in every single thing they do. For example, men are, on average, physically stronger than women. It is much easier for a semi attractive (even a 6/10) woman to go out and get laid. The same cannot be said about men. Men have to work at it, have some skill (game) and thereby get a woman to sleep with them. It is a LOT harder for an equally attractive man to get women than it is the other way around. This is one of reasons behind why we, as a society, naturally celebrate men who are successful in bedding multiple women; while at the same time shame women who bed multiple men.
Let us briefly visit the topic of virginity from both perspectives. Virginity in a man is not a desirable state or label when it comes to an attribute that the opposite sex wants. This is because he has obviously not been preselected by other women. However, female virginity is not looked at negatively in the least by men. If she looks decent, no man cares if the girl is a virgin or not. In fact, a female virgin is often wanted more.
Now don’t get me wrong, men LOVE sluts. We will never turn down an opportunity to sleep with a good looking slut. Partly because she’s good in bed, partly because it’s sex. But any decently intelligent, self-respecting man will know that it is a terrible idea to emotionally involve himself (i.e. date) a slutty girl. That would be a very dumb move. Why would any man want to get emotionally involved with a girl who’s had 15+ sexual partners? We would just be setting ourselves up for failure. There are many nice worthy girls out there who don’t have daddy issues and haven’t slept with an entire fraternity house. But, by all means, fvck the brains out of sluts in the meanwhile.
Most guys can detect when a girl is a slut by the first few dates and by what he hears about the girl from other people and from the girl herlself. We put this information together and figure out if she is dating material or not. If not, I like most guys, will still go in for the prize but have no intention of following through with dating the dirty little tart.
To put it simply, a lock that can be opened by many keys is a useless lock and of little worth. But a key that can open many locks is a master key and is valuable.
I’ve slept with men like you Jeremy. They were horrible in bed, it was all about them and getting it done fast and furiously. It’s good to know from the beginning if a guy is a selfish lover. Every long term relationship I’ve had started with sex on the first date.
hahhaa private equity guy is hilarious!
I read these coments…. esp. by woman and can see why this world we live in is so screwed up. Lets face it the amount of abortions that we do just here in america is staggering and you can lay that at the feet of slutty behavior. Yes slutty behavior is a woman that has sex with a man or men before there married. How many broken hearts and unwed mothers and children with out daddy do we have running around because of slutty behavior. I find that woman that are sluts produce little girls that turn into sluts.
That being said I think that there are also men sluts. Men that think that sex is something that should be done as often and with as many woman as possible. They produce children they do not support and they produce little boys that grow up to be sluts.
The labling of slut is something used to cause someone to examine there behavior and hopefully with some moral tweeking change there slutty ways.
So boys and girls don’t be a slut, don’t produce sluts, find someone to love you for ever, Marry them and live happly ever after.
Are you waving a flag right now too?
Let me tell you what makes a woman a slut by offering an example – my girlfriend. A slut, is someone who enters into a relationship with you as if you are the only one. Leads you to believe you’are’ they only one. Lets you waste your time money, effort and life believing so, whilst at the same time is registred on sex sites and ‘social’ websites and having sex with a multitude of men and woman, threesomes you name it, behind your back. Now that, is undeniably a slut. and if i could find a stronger word, believe me, id have no hesitation in using it.
how about a nymphomaniac? she might have been clinically ill. anyways sorry for your disappointment
This is insanity. Sleeping with someone on a first date does not make you a slut. Sleeping with whomever you want whenever you want so long as you aren’t breaking someones trust does not make you a slut.
Sluts date guys for money, purposefully make themselves look like whores, go to the gym/tan on daddies dime and aim to be as sexually appealing as possible so they never have to work.
That is a slut. Sluts weaponize sex, real women enjoy sex.
I can’t help but suspect that men who “would never marry a ‘girl’* who puts out on the first date” are also the kinds of men who would also justify cheating on their wives because they don’t have sex with them as often as they want to (usually because they’re raising kids and a job).
*are we not women? girls go to school, women work.
i’m confused as to what the term “slut” means for the person labeling another as such. Is a slut someone I won’t talk to? Does she have no value as a person? Is she okay as long as she’s not talking to my boyfriend? Or is it just someone who is really promiscuous but otherwise a good person?
What I mean is that there is no one who I know on more than a superficial level that I would call a slut. It seems like a blanket term for a woman you don’t know who is somehow threatening. Like an easy way to dismiss another human being.
I’ve just never really thought about what it truly means when I call someone a slut.
Personally, I’m just grateful to get laid. I don’t hold it against the girl. If I like her I’ll still date her (unless she wasn’t good in bed because that’s a real turn-off)…
Thank you, An honest man! Kudos for your honesty and attitude. I’d like to also add: I slept with a man on the first date. And he is now my husband.
The first black model is Sports Illustrated model Ariel Meredith and the second black model is Victoria’s Secrets model Emanuel de Paula. And that’s all I have to say about this article.
Can I be 54 years old and still a slut? I’ve been monogamous for 25 years, but prior to that, I had been known to have one night stands, to pick up an occasional guy in a bar, and to wear revealing clothes (um, if going nude on a beach could be described as revealing…)
Mah gawd, these guys MUST be from an alternate reality, or from the 1950s. I came of age in the 1970s and I don’t think any of the guys I knew were as backward as most of these dudes!
P.S., I slept with my husband on our second date 25 years ago.
Slut, I wish I came of age in the 1970s. It does appear the double standards are here, no?
Ess, I have always considered myself a radical feminist and was very much an activist back in the day. I am honestly appalled to read those quotes from those backassward guys. Have we really backslid that much?? Damn.
“Slut” is not a phrase. Just sayin…
You’re right. It’s a term, not a phrase.
Jennifer, is The Investment Banker just a pseudonym for the author of The Rules, trying to scare ladies out of giving it up on the first date?
Why use models to support the argument?
Does it really prove anything? …
“A classy dress that shows side boob or lots of clevage can be beautiful not slutty at all.”
Ah side boob. Classy, classy side boob.
“Slut” is a thing kids call each other in high school as The Highest Insult they can think of. It’s in the ‘super-mean words’ lexicon alongside “fat”, “fag” and “retard”.
Thus, if someone over the age of say, 17, starts using it in a super-serious manner… to me, it’s simply a sign of emotional immaturity or regression.
oh my god, thank you. completely agree.
Where do you find these awful fucking men?! Did you time-travel back to the fifties?! I don’t know a single guy who thinks like this. This is, however, a helpful reminder to everyone re: why we still need feminism. So uh, thanks, I guess?
Also, I don’t think it’s hilarious. I think it’s a huge bummer. :(
I think a lot of men (and, honestly, a lot of women) think like this, but they know that they’re not “supposed” to. Kind of as The (possibly Classics) Professor notes – a lot of people make judgments about people who have a lot of sex partners. They’re also often not willing to ‘fess up to it, at least partly because they know that it’s sexist…but they still think that way, and if you can force them to be honest, they’ll admit to judging promiscuous women more than they do promiscuous men.
Thank you!
…and I’m not friends with any of those people. Seriously, I have cut people out of my life for getting drunk and revealing their nasty slut-shaming tendencies. I don’t tolerate this kind of fucked up ideology.
Clearly, it’s guys that dont get laid a lot that have always called women sluts. They’re insecure as crap.